On Dreaming and Connecting the Dots.

On Dreaming and Connecting the Dots.

*wiping the dust off this website


Ehm…ehm…Geez. When was the last time you were here?

Okay…First of all, how are y’all doing?

One of my most faithful readers DM-ed me last week on my birthday and reminded me that I needed to start writing blogs again. And it got me thinking…Why haven’t I been writing? I have so many things to say, but I tend to just not say them these days.

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But y’all, as I was walking down Ocean Avenue in Santa Monica last week with a cup of Philz Coffee’s Mojito Iced Latte in my hand, I started to think about God, life, love, and dreams and…


I got an epiphany.

Okay that seems a little dramatic.

But it’s true! I was overwhelmed with gratitude and inspiration, and without further ado, I’m going to share a little bit about what I realized that morning:


This truth might seem simple, but it is the one thing that often hinder us from living joyously and effectively. Imagine if we all could live with the understanding that we are enough, and our God-given bodies and talents are enough? That we don’t need validation from strangers or a fake butt to be significant?


This does not mean we should be complacent with our lives though, because I believe in dreaming big and setting up goals.

What this means is that:

Fueled by the understanding that everything we need to succeed in life, marriage, parenting, and career is already in us, we would strive to steward and cultivate our talents, strengths, uniqueness, and character to fulfill our purpose on earth.

All I’m saying is: Greatness is already in you, you just gotta get it out of you!


For example, I am a 30 year-old mom with no Bachelor’s degree and no real experience in the film industry, how am I going to make it as a filmmaker? I don’t know. But do I believe that what I need to get me there is already in me? Yes. Is it out yet? No, in fact I still suck and have a lot to learn. Am I going to give up though? Not so fast.



What I mean by this is:

All the glitz and glam shouldn’t be the reason why you do what you do. Whatever it is, be it a lawyer, a doctor, a musician, or a content creator. You have to create from a pure place, and in the words of Bishop Jakes aim to be “EFFECTIVE, not FAMOUS”.

If you only pursue your goals for fame, you will never feel/be enough, for you or others. Because there’s always going to be someone more famous/more relevant/ richer/ skinnier than you. As rapper Lecrae puts it, “If you live for people’s acceptance, you’ll die of their rejection.”



Inspired by this sermon Mr.Man and I listened to on our way to Sacramento, this last nugget of wisdom is what I’m going to leave you with today.

Anyone who’s lived longer than 2 seconds would know that life often does not turn the way we expect it. And we often have to take so many detours along our journey, that even though seem hard, might lead us to our destiny.

Back when I was in college, I came across Steve Jobs’ Stanford Commencement Speech, and I’ll never forget what he said about connecting the dots:

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”

I am thankful for all the detours, relationships that didn’t work, all the bosses I’ve ever worked for/with, and every business ventures I’ve ever tried my hands on (from planning parties to selling dumplings) — without them all, I wouldn’t be here today.

If your life is taking an unexpected turn right now, I hope you’d find the courage to embrace it with a hope that somehow, someday, it’s going to lead you to where you’re meant to be.

And remember, you’re not alone.

God’s got you 🙂


2 responses to “On Dreaming and Connecting the Dots.”

  1. Your writing really blessed me.When we had our 2nd retreat in Houston, I wish I could meet you, but you live in Dallas which is far from Houston.I hope I will meet you one day, an inspiring mom and wife


    • Thank you for your kind words, Glorya!! Apologies for my late reply. Yes, Houston is about 3 hours from Dallas, it is kind of a far drive. I hope to see you someday somehow. Thank you for your support. Whatever you are going through in life today, I hope that you are walking through it in God’s wisdom. 🙂 Much love from Dallas!


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